The Dark Side of Self-Help: Why Feel-Good Culture Is Making Us Miserable

Are you tired of feeling pressured to be perfect, constantly happy, and in a never-ending pursuit of self-improvement? If so, you’re not alone—and this book is for you.

In The Dark Side of Self-Help, we dive into the hidden side of self-help culture, exploring the toll of toxic positivity, hustle culture, and the billion-dollar industry behind “good vibes only” mantras. With a combination of social critique, sarcasm, and humor, we unpack the relentless push to “be better” that often leaves us feeling worse. In a world where wellness influencers, manifestation guides, and endless lists of “10 steps to happiness” are the norm, we ask: what if the very advice meant to lift us up is actually dragging us down?

Through relatable stories, with a background in psychology, mental health, and research-backed insights, the author questions the feel-good myths that currently dominate self-help culture. She offers readers a fresh perspective on what it truly means to grow—and how to do so without losing your sanity along the way. The Dark Side of Self-Help isn’t about abandoning personal growth; it’s about finding balance, embracing imperfection, and learning to improve ourselves without the pressure of being “perfect” or “positive” 24/7.

What’s Inside:

• An honest critique of self-help mantras and the obsession with “good vibes only”
• A look at the toll of constant self-improvement and the myth of effortless happiness
• Insightful (and sometimes cringeworthy) stories about real-life self-help situations
• Practical advice on engaging with self-help culture with self-compassion and a realistic outlook

Whether you’re a self-help skeptic or simply looking to approach personal growth with a more grounded mindset, The Dark Side of Self-Help will make you laugh, make you think, and give you permission to be real, messy, and human.

Endorsement:

“I highly recommend reading The Dark Side of Self-Help if you’re tired of the constant pressure to be perfect and happy all the time. This book offers a refreshing perspective on toxic positivity, the self-help industry, and the pitfalls of striving for constant improvement. With a balance of humor and insight, this book is a must-read for anyone looking to navigate self-help culture with a healthy dose of skepticism and self-compassion. Get ready for a wild ride of truth and authenticity!”
—Dr. Aluney de Albuquerque Silva, Psy.D, DTheol